Values & Approach

My Values As A Therapist

While people come to therapy for a variety of reasons, what they want most to do is to stop suffering and live better. In my experience, therapy is less about “personal growth”, “talking things through”, or “finding coping mechanisms”. These are all worthy things. When it comes down to it, it’s about change and getting to a genuinely better place, and none of these are synonymous with that. And make no mistake, all change requires discomfort. I genuinely care about the people I work with and find it incredibly fulfilling to help them get to a better place. I have been told by clients that I operate with a firm, yet highly compassionate resolve. I leave no stone unturned in treating each session as if it could be our last.

Research has shown that nearly half of people do not get the full benefit from therapy. This half, I have good reason to suspect, are those with significant trauma histories and understandable pain “resistance” to whom the mental health system has largely alluded. For these individuals, therapy must go beyond the cognitive, solution-focused, or insight level for deep change to occur.

It was once believed that greater self-insight leads to change, but from my experience, and better research, it is more the other way around – experiencing ourselves more deeply allows for greater insight into who we really are. Therefore, to help my clients, I inevitably go to a deep and experiential place with them. This has as much to do with my presence as it does with technique. It takes resolve, and deliberate practice and training.

Jack Twill, psychologist Annapolis MD.
Jack N. Tawil, Annapolis Psychotherapist
Values & Approach
Values & Approach

My Approach To Therapy & Why I’m Different From Other Clinicians

It was once said that you can’t take a client further than you have gone yourself. This is wise advice. I’ve come to believe that great therapists are not so much born but created through perseverance through their struggles and a steadfast commitment to their work as therapists and as people.

That said, deliberate practice, defined as a therapist’s way of understanding what he/she is doing through performance feedback is essential to becoming as effective as possible1.

I make deliberate practice an essential part of my work as a therapist because I want to genuinely help people overcome emotional suffering. Many of my new referrals are from people who have been in therapy before, sometimes for years, but have not seen good results.

Emotional suffering is serious business, sometimes a matter of life and death. And I want to know I have done everything possible to make a difference. This often means spending hours during my week looking over videotaped sessions working to understand what is not working and what could work better.

It requires more of my time, money, and effort, but it just feels like the right thing to do.

“Venting” therapy

You may feel like you are being heard because your therapist lets you talk as much as you want. At first this may feel good, but after a while you may be thinking in the back of your mind that you want the therapist to do something to help you stop, but it never comes.

“A-ha, A-ha” therapy

This is exactly as it sounds.

Psychosyrapy

The therapist comes off as caring, warm, and thoughtful and has the tone to boot. It sounds like sympathy, but it does not feel authentic. When in doubt, trust this feeling.

“Merry- go-round” therapy

The therapist comes off as caring, warm, and thoughtful and has the tone to boot. It sounds like sympathy, but it does not feel authentic. When in doubt, trust this feeling.

“All talk, no action” therapy

You and the therapist talk alot about interesting things and it is comfortable. The therapist may also feel like a good friend. One problem - Your life has not changed.

I Am The Right Therapist For You If:

  • You’ve previously been in therapy and you didn’t achieve your goal as much as you’d like; haven’t lived better and real change has not occurred in your life.
  • You’re committed to doing the work to change your life.
  • You’re tired of the mental health runaround of going from professional to professional and never getting to the root of what’s going on in your life. You want answers.
  • You’re looking for genuine change and not just “awareness” or insight into your past/life.
  • You want relief beyond fixing your symptoms. For example, you want to know what’s behind or driving your symptoms of depression or anxiety so you can gain control and know how to live differently.
  • You think treatment, not just management of your conditions is what you want.
  • You want to work with someone who you feel really understands your head and heart.
  • You want to work with someone who is fully present in the room with you as you experience your healing and transformation.
  • You want someone else on the planet to hear and witness your pain so you’re not alone in it anymore.
  • You want a therapist who has the courage to tell you what you don’t want to hear, with the compassion to say it in a way that you can hear, so you feel lifted and lighter in your life.
  • You want permission to be your real self without fearing criticism, judgment, or retribution.

I Am The Right Therapist If Any Of These Resonate With You:

Get In Touch With Me

If you’re ready for this kind of support, I would welcome the opportunity to work with you. My services are cash-based and I am accepting clients now.

My office is in Annapolis, MD and you can reach me for a consultation by calling (410) 562-9647 or sending me an email at mail@annapolispsychotherapy.com