Individual Therapy

Individual Therapy In Annapolis, MD

What happens in an individual therapy session?

Individual therapy is a process in which we work together and collaborate to help you get to the root of your difficulties so you can feel better. In individual therapy, contrary to what some may believe, you are in charge and the therapist guides and facilitates change.

It is kind of like being with a fitness coach/instructor: You have hired them to guide you, coach you, and facilitate positive change. But you are the one doing the work, as in pushing the weights, running, etc. You are an expert on YOU, and I am a highly trained expert in human behavior and change and use my knowledge to facilitate change in YOU.

And if there is any struggle at any level of you doing what you need to do, I make that the focus of the therapy, until you can. It is what we in the mental health field call resistance. Resistance is natural and expected.

This would be like you at the gym telling your fitness instructor that you have had “poor experiences in getting in shape and doubt you can do it.” Do we stop there? Of course not, a great fitness instructor will tap into your natural strengths and what is true about you, to help you out of this kind of negative relationship with yourself. In similar ways, that is how individual therapy works.

Can Individual Therapy Help A Relationship?

Absolutely! In fact, in addition to symptoms that people come in with like depression and anxiety, relationship difficulties are one of the most common reasons for therapy. As humans, we all thrive optimally when we are in healthy meaningful relationships. I will sometimes get calls from a person who is seeking couples therapy,  but after talking on the phone for a while it turns out that individual therapy is a better option for them.  We are not able to navigate our way to a healthy relationship if we struggle with too many blocks in our relationship with ourselves.

I once had a woman call me saying she wanted either couples therapy for her and her husband or a therapist for her husband. The only problem was that he wanted neither for himself. I asked what the problem was and she stated “He keeps cheating on me and thinks it is ok”. I said that given that your husband is not interested in couples therapy and does not want his own therapy I can’t help him. She stated that maybe she needed to come to see me alone to understand why she kept putting up with his destructive behaviors. I said great, let’s set up an appointment. And once she learned to be more assertive with her husband, things began to change dramatically for her.

How Long Does Therapy Usually Last?

This is a good question but one I really am unable to give a fixed answer to. It really depends on many things: how ready the individual is ready to work, the nature of the problems, and the psychological health and capacity of the individual (what we therapists may call ego-adaptive capacity). As you can see, there is no one-size-fits-all approach.

That said, I often tell my clients that if they are not seeing significant improvements in their lives after the 5th session, then we need to re-evaluate what we are doing to see what is not working or refer them to someone who may be able to better meet your needs.

I make it a point not to continue to work with people who are not experiencing incremental improvements. If you have experienced a kind of therapy where you go in week after week and see no real change, I assure you that will not happen with me. You deserve better. 

When Will I Start To Feel Better?

Many of my patients feel significantly better after our first 90-minute appointment. As I have said, you should start to feel better after the 5th session. 

Can You Help Me With Past Or Childhood Trauma?

Of course. And if you are here reading this, know that you have come to the right place. Working with childhood trauma, what is often termed complex trauma by psychologists, is one of my specialties. I have trained extensively in this kind of work. I also train other seasoned clinicians in this kind of work.

Individual Therapy: Frequently Asked Questions

This is a good question but one I really am unable to give a fixed answer to. It really depends on many things: how ready the individual is ready to work, the nature of the problems, and the psychological health and capacity of the individual (what we therapists may call ego-adaptive capacity). As you can see, there is no one-size-fits-all approach.

That said, I often tell my clients that if they are not seeing significant improvements in their lives after the 5th session, then we need to re-evaluate what we are doing to see what is not working or refer them to someone who may be able to better meet your needs.

I make it a point not to continue to work with people who are not experiencing incremental improvements. If you have experienced a kind of therapy where you go in week after week and see no real change, I assure you that will not happen with me. You deserve better. 

Of course. And if you are here reading this, know that you have come to the right place. Working with childhood trauma, what is often termed complex trauma by psychologists, is one of my specialties. I have trained extensively in this kind of work. I also train other seasoned clinicians in this kind of work.

Many of my patients feel significantly better after our first 90-minute appointment. As I have said, you should start to feel better after the 5th session. 

Get In Touch With Me

If you’re ready for this kind of support, I would welcome the opportunity to work with you. My services are cash-based and I am accepting clients now.

My office is in Annapolis, MD and you can reach me for a consultation by calling (410) 562-9647 or sending me an email at mail@annapolispsychotherapy.com